What to Do When You Can't Make a Decision

A few weeks ago I was buying popsicles at the gas station (random, I know). I just stood there, trying to choose between flavors for five minutes.

Coconut? Or mango? Dang. Both sounded so good!

I couldn't make a decision for the life of me. I was so afraid to make the wrong decision, so afraid to get the mango and then regret not getting the coconut, or vice versa.

And then I realized: neither decision would be bad. I have two good options in front of me. In fact, either option would do just fine. Both were absolutely wonderful decisions!

I think life is a lot like that sometimes. Sometimes God presents us with several options and then instead of rejoicing in them, we get so stuck because we're so afraid to make the wrong decision.

Maybe what we need to learn is that perhaps it's not at all about trying to throw a lasso around His will or understand his perfect plan but instead LIVE His will, just LIVE in His ways, honoring Him through whatever decision we make–mango, coconut, or something else.

In other words, sometimes God doesn't paint the answer across the sky but maybe that's because He doesn't need to. Perhaps He leads from behind, instead of from the front, daring us to shed our desire to pick what's perfect and to just pick Him instead–to trust and honor Him in EVERY choice we make.

“In whatever you do, whether you eat or drink, do it all for the glory of God.” | 1 Corinthians 10:31

So, if you're feeling stuck and having a hard time making a decision, consider the following:

1. Ask: Do all options honor God?

If yes, write down your answer to the following: how can I intentionally glorify God in either option? This will help you see what you may be more passionate about or which offers even more opportunities to live in God's will!

If no, which is selfish or which would make it difficult to glorify God in? Remove it from your options. This will help you narrow down your options.

2. Pray through your options

Don't just talk about it, pray about it! I don't suggest asking for a sign but instead for peace. Sometimes, it's not so much about God revealing what He would want but instead giving us peace to trust Him through whatever we do.

3. Choose one on the condition that you will choose to exalt the Lord in all that that decision brings

Again, this is about living in His will and in the freedom to trust at all costs. If you choose to glorify God in all that you do, that may even mean stepping away from that decision or changing course at some point if you feel unsettled.

However, if you invite God into every decision and honor Him above yourself, you literally cannot mess it up.

Jeremiah 29:11

So, don't be afraid to make decisions or take steps of faith when you're unsure. It's not about finding the perfect plan by choosing to glorify God in whatever plan of action you take.

Don't stress yourself out so much. There's more to life than that.

And guess what? The coconut popsicle was pretty dang good. And had I chosen the mango, I think I would have been equally as satisfied because it's really not about the decision itself but the direction we face — are we looking to Jesus to satisfy us or are we looking to the opportunities God gives us to satisfy us?

Look, I know that if you trust and include Him, if you fix your eyes on Jesus, then whatever you choose will be really good, too.

Because God might not paint the answer across the sky but He has written it in His Word and will always write it across your heart.

And choosing HIM is the only perfect decision you'll ever make.

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8 thoughts on “What To Do When You Can’t Make a Decision

  1. Thank you so much for this! I am in a season of decision making and this makes so much sense. I don’t want to make the wrong choice but it is hard to know what that means. Perhaps there is no right or wrong, only with God and without.

    Posted on August 12, 2017 at 5:48 am
  2. You have no idea how bad I had been stressing out about choosing THE RIGHT major for college. Now, I feel so much more at ease…and at peace with the decision I am making. You’re making me tear up because your content is just what I needed in this moment. It came at just the right time for me. Thank you, so much, Jordan. Never stop using your gift for His glory and for helping people. We need it more than you know❤. Keep writing girl and communicatimg the Truth!

    Posted on August 12, 2017 at 1:36 pm
    1. Thank you for these words. I needed to hear this. I am faced with many decisions right now. You are very timely.

      Posted on August 17, 2017 at 4:14 pm
  3. Jordan Lee, God led me to your blog page tonight from a post a friend on Facebook shared. This and it is hitting me deep, girl. I recently ended a relationship that I chose to pursue rather than school, family, friends and God. A deadly path that filled my heart with anxiety, fear, depression, broke apart my family. I know you have a sisterhood group, but being authentic here, I have been too fearful of working/people and am flat broke. BUT now I am at a crossroad that feels so huge. I just flew from him and his family in Washington state to my family in south Texas and feel all these different “callings” he has given me before and giving me now. Finish school, international missions, Air Force, etc. I have ALWAYS fallen apart when making decision, even as a child. One thing I know He put on my heart while in Washington was to start a blog. You have inspired me in so many different ways tonight; your page, your faith, your blogs, everything you have going here! Thank you so much <3

    Posted on August 21, 2017 at 2:24 am
  4. Thank you so much Jordan, I am in the midst of having to make a very important decision, and I know that God is pushing me to one decision, but it’s still a little hard to go with His flow. I just need to remember that I should be looking to Jesus to satisfy me. I guess, I just have to choose Jesus, because he’s so much better than anything else on this Earth!

    Posted on September 1, 2017 at 11:44 pm
  5. I’m a sophmore in air force junior rotc, and I’ve been thinking about my future as well as my country’s lately. It’s been really heavy on my heart of how my future military life might affect my family and my guy friend. I need some prayer if you’re ever wondering what else you might want to cover before you go to sleep. Thank you for your kind, heart warming words on Godly decision making. It’s opened my eyes and turned my heart towards the right path. God bless! <3

    Posted on October 23, 2017 at 4:57 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      I’m so glad to hear this blessed you, Jasmine! Praying that God gives you the clarity and peace you are seeking on this journey.

      Posted on October 23, 2017 at 9:49 am
  6. An elder in my congregation once told me, “God can bless a bad decision, but he won’t bless disobedience.” So even if we choose wrong we have his grace to help us through it and his blessing that it’ll turn out well. We just keep faithful. Great post!

    Posted on December 19, 2017 at 6:34 am