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Break ups are hard. Really hard. So much so that sometimes you end up questioning the decision to break up in the first place. And then, suddenly, without meaning to, you're standing there with a bleeding heart and a blank text message addressed to him asking the golden question: Should I get back together with him?

While I know that there isn't one cookie cutter answer for this question, I want to share a story and some advice that helped me through the last breakup I ever walked through in hopes of shedding some light on this question…and I hope it'll help you discern the best decision, too 😉

One September day, I decided to join my friends for a Saturday tailgate at the very last minute. Even though I had work to do, it was a big game and didn't I want to miss out.

I dug through my bottom drawer to find my high waisted denim shorts, reached for my new cream and crimson tank top, tossed them onto the unmade bed, and then hopped in the shower.

An hour later, I put the finishing touches of mascara on each eyelash as my roommates called up the stairs, “J, are you almost ready?!”

I threw on the outfit I had picked out and stood in front of the mirror, spending far too much time analyzing if it made me look ‘fat'. They called for me again. I gave it up, grabbed my things, and ran out the door.

The day was absolutely perfect. The sun was shining, music blasted in every direction, and campus was full of energy in anticipation of the big game.

I had every reason to be happy but at some point throughout the day, between tailgate tents and backyard barbecue, something inside of me broke. By mid afternoon, I found myself wishing I had someone special to share such a sweet memory with. The day itself, in all it's beauty, made me miss that feeling of companionship I had just months earlier and it left me wondering if I should try to get back together with him.

Frustrated, I left the game before halftime. Once at home, I scrubbed the makeup off my face, changed into some gym shorts, and went to the campus recreational center. As I pedaled away at the stationary bike, I realized how accurate my pedaling illustrated the state of my heart.

I felt like I had been working so hard to move on but wasn't getting anywhere…I wasn't moving. I fought back tears and picked up my phone to dial my mom. Surely, she would know what to do.

I'm sure you're familiar with that feeling – the sting that comes on at the most unexpected times and the pain of loneliness that seems to strike without warning after someone walks out of your life (even when you're surrounded by friends).

Maybe he recently texted you out of the blue right when you were ALMOST over him — just to remind you he exists (that's the worst, I know). Or maybe you felt like you didn't get closure, the silence has been deafening, and you can hardly take it anymore. Perhaps he toyed with your heart but says he's changed or has begged for you to take him back. And maybe you feel like I did that day on that stationary bike so many years ago — confused, frustrated, lonely, and wondering…

Should I get back together with him?

I don't know the specifics of your situation. I can't tell you exactly what to do but I can pass on the advice my mama reminded me of over the phone that day.

She said, “I know it's hard to move on but like I've always told you, don't let your emotions make you walk back into the life of a man who walked out of yours.”

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Ironically, in that very moment, I heard a loud noise and looked up from my bicycle to see what had happened. Every television in the gym was broadcasting the game and the Hoosiers had just made a big play. None other than player #91 walked across the screen and blocked the camera for a few seconds right as I looked up. I couldn't see him under the helmet, but little did I know he would be the one to walk into my life later that year. He would be the one I'd walk down the aisle to a few years after that. Not so ironic, huh?

Maybe mom was onto something.

I think, sometimes, we give the pain of loneliness and the fear of rejection power over our decisions far too quickly. When someone we care about hurts us or leaves us, there's a hole in our heart for a little while. When it comes to break ups, it's so tempting to allow that very person back into our heart in an effort to fill up that hole because we believe the lie that nothing else or no one else could ever fit that space.

But that space is broken. It isn't something that needs to be filled or patched. It's something that needs to be healed and mended.

Again, every situation, break up, and relationship is different and I'm not saying Mr. Perfect is going to sweep you off your feet tomorrow if you hold on a little bit longer. That's not the point.

The point is that God is faithful and every move and change and loss in our life is because He sees the need to make room in our heart for something else – usually, Himself. Even if I hadn't met my husband later that year, that breakup happened because it was supposed to happen and the time I spent healing, instead of trying to fix or control it, forced me to lean on God in a way I hadn't before. It caused me to seek God on a personal level, not just a churchy level.

So if you find yourself in one of those tough situations, trying to figure out whether or not you should salvage a relationship that has crumbled, and what God's will is for the relationship, I want to advise you to consider a few things before you run back to the guy:

1. Are you trying to fill the hole in your heart with the guy who was there before or letting it be mended by the God who has always been there (Psalm 147:3)?

2. If you don't have complete peace about getting back together, if you even have to ask this question and find yourself wrestling, there's a reason you don't have peace about it.

3. This period of life, this pain and healing, might just be life changing for you in more ways than one because if faith can move mountains, it can certainly help you move on.

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Like I said, I can't tell you what to do in your unique situation, but I can challenge you to examine your motives for getting back together and consider the amount of peace you truly have about it.

Unless you can say with absolute certainty that you have complete peace about getting back together (or dating someone in general) that you don't have to convince yourself of or talk yourself into, then you shouldn't step back into that relationship. If there's not a deep-seated peace in your heart about it, there's a reason for that. Don't overlook it or ignore that reality when your emotions or feelings of loneliness become overwhelming. It's not worth the cost.

So, forgive him but also give yourself permission to move on and guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23).

Healing comes when we let God not just fill, but also heal, the hole that the guy left there. He not only heals the hole but also make the heart WHOLE through that healing.

Healing isn't the easy way, though. It's the hard way. You might get frustrated and cry and may even have to leave the big game early just to ferociously pedal away at the stationary bike. It might feel like despite your best effort, regardless of how hard you're pedaling, you're just not moving…not getting anywhere.

Healing isn't the easy way. It's the hard (but completely necessary) way. Click To Tweet

But that doesn't mean it's not working. That doesn't mean God's not there. That doesn't mean you're not getting stronger.

So go ahead – pedal harder, cry it out, wipe your tears, and look up. His greater plan is closer than you think, it's right before your eyes — even if it's hidden beneath a helmet…even if you don't recognize it yet.

XO

Jordan Lee

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43 thoughts on “How to Know If You Should Get Back Together With Him

  1. Thank you! I have just gone through a break up and finding it so unbelievably difficult. I am so lonely and longing for that companionship again! But have totally found myself relying on God so much more; for His healing in me is far greater than my own! It’s currently 12.36am in the UK and I’m wide awake thinking about this boy – he consumes my thoughts still and I just can’t move on! But I can keep pedalling and know that through Christ’s strength, one day I will move on!! I can relate to this article so much and for that I thank you!

    Posted on March 7, 2017 at 7:37 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Amazing! God can use ANYTHING at ANYTIME! So encouraged to know this blessed you a little bit. Keep on pedaling! Xoxo

      Posted on March 7, 2017 at 8:00 pm
  2. This is a question I am constantly asking myself. My ex boyfriend is begging me to give him a second chance after emotionally cheating on me with my best friend. Of course I still love him, and I am just so conflicted about what to do. He says he wants to marry me and that he has made the changes necessary to be a faithful husband.

    Posted on March 7, 2017 at 8:21 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Nicole, I can only imagine how difficult this must be! I recently had a reader email me with a very similar situation and I’d be happy to pass along that same advice I gave her —

      I know it’s SO tempting to allow that very person back into our hearts to fill that spot because we believe the lie that nothing else or no one else could ever fit.

      But that’s setting us up for failure. If he’s a guy who is willing to step act according to his desires at your expense, such as jumping into a relationship or into bed with another girl — that shows his character. As much as we’d like to think someone changed, the guy is not a man – he’s a boy. And if he just recently “broke up” with this girl, he needs to do some serious growing and soul searching before he can really say he’s changed. And that doesn’t happen in a few weeks. He needs a lot of time because it has to be heart change not just a behavior change. But sometimes we humans mistake a behavior change (say, he’s been doing all the “right” things to win you back) as a heart change. But often, it’s not.

      I can’t tell you what to do but I would highly suggest not getting back together with him – even if he says he’s had a change of heart. That doesn’t mean don’t forgive him. It simply means give yourself permission to let go.
      Just look at his pattern. He doesn’t know what he wants. He did it to you first…decided he wanted someone else….then decided he didn’t want that someone else and now wants you again. So in the course of a short time, he’s shown this recurring behavior…what makes you think he won’t have another “change of heart” at the drop of a hat and run to someone else when he feels like it? What makes you think he won’t do it again?
      I know these are hard questions to ask but really pray through them and don’t make any sudden moves if you still feel conflicted at all. A lack of peace is usually the Spirit nudging you not to move forward with something.

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 2:39 am
  3. For months I have been reading every single article about breakups on the internet to try and mend my broken heart. You have finally given me the answer that I have been so desperately searching for. I knew I would find it one day. Thank you so much.

    Posted on March 7, 2017 at 9:45 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      AMAZING!! There is so much out there, it can be so overwhelming. What a blessing to known God led you to my blog. Praying it not only blesses you in the moment but for many days to come. Thanks for reading, Jessica!

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 2:33 am
  4. I truly needed to read this because I just got out of a relationship and I was so angry at him for how he broke up with me! And all I want to do is just text him and see how he’s doing hoping he will want me back. So thank you so much for this beautiful post.

    Posted on March 7, 2017 at 9:57 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Oh goodness, I’m so sorry to hear that but trust it’s for such a mighty purpose. Keep pressing on and pedaling away — even when t feels like you’re not moving! Xoxo

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 2:32 am
  5. God speaks to me through every message you share, I couldn’t be more grateful for you and how he reaches out to us. Every time I read your stories about meeting Matt in college it reminds me of my last relationship, the one I’m still mending from. He plays college football and guess what number he is…#91. When I first read about you I scrolled through your Facebook photos and realized your bf played football and it reminded me of my first two years in college supporting my boyfriend at every game. Then I saw a picture of him, in his #91 jersey and my heart plummeted. Every time I read of these stories I wonder if God is giving me hope or maybe there isn’t any meaning behind the similarities. Whatever the case, thank you again for speaking to the soul as always.
    xoxo

    Posted on March 7, 2017 at 10:00 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      WOW! What a bizzare similarity! I can imagine how that must be confusing… “does this mean something or is this just Satan messing with my mind?” Gosh, how crazy, girl! I hope you were encouraged nonetheless. Thanks for your kind and encouraging words. Love to you! Xoxo

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 2:31 am
  6. What resonated with me the most is what your Mama said, “…don’t let your emotions make you walk you back into the life of a man that walked out of yours.” He was my first love and heartbreak. That message is what I need to constantly repeat to myself. Thank you so much for sharing!

    Posted on March 7, 2017 at 11:42 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      So glad to hear it encouraged you, Hannah! First loves can be so hard to let go of but just because they are the first doesn’t mean they were meant to be forever, right? Thanks for reading! Xox

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 2:29 am
  7. Omaigoodness the timing is like everything. I broke up with someone 6 months ago and there is so much that is still unresolved in my heart. At times, I feel I have moved on but then there will again come a moment akin to being on my knees. And I just realized today that more than a change of mind or hanging out with new friends or any of those behavorial changes, I needed to hand over my heart to God so that he could mend it. I’ve come to a full circle realization that only God can do this. His power is so much mightier than mine. I still don’t know what’s in store for me exactly or where this is supposed to lead. But, I do know that He knows. And that I can trust in His knowing. Thank you so much for sharing this! <3 also, I loved your comment about how a lack of peace is the Spirit signaling that you shouldn't move forward with something. Excited to actually apply this and hand the problem to Spirit instead. So much love and light to you, Jordan. <3

    Posted on March 8, 2017 at 3:55 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Wow! I’m so encouraged to read how much this spoke to your heart and met you in the middle of the mess today. God is so good. Thank you for reading and for sharing your heart!

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:54 am
  8. Jordan, You have no idea how timely this was. I am all the way in Guam, on the 4th day of a “break” between my boyfriend (or exboyfriend) and I.
    It’s been so hard. I’ve been questioning everything. I’ve been crying every single day. I’ve been a wreck.
    He hasn’t contacted me at all.
    And I read this.
    i am really taking this advice very seriously. I really needed it in my life right now. May God continue to work in you.
    Love
    Sirena

    Posted on March 8, 2017 at 7:26 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      I’m so glad God met you right where you are with this and praying you continue clinging to Him and trusting His purpose in the pain. Keep going! Xoxo

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:53 am
    2. Hi Sirena! I am going through a similar situation. My ex boyfriend cheated on me for a full year!! We had been dating for over 7 years and I never saw it coming. Worst of all is that I found out by the other girl and he hasn’t even contacted me. It makes you really question whether he ever really loved me or not. As of now I’m going to see a psychologist because I’m also battling with depression. I wish you the best of luck and now that it is okay to ask for help!

      Posted on March 9, 2017 at 3:23 pm
  9. God is so good. Last night, I had a meltdown with my fiancé as I felt the pain of my previous relationship come flooding back. Not because I missed this other guy or wanted him back, but because I compromised so much of myself during that last relationship and gave away a part of me that I should have been saving for my husband, and only my husband. I was angry, I wanted those years back, and I wished so desperately that those times and those memories would have been spent with my now fiancé, and not with this other man. I still feel a hole in my heart because of how deeply that relationship hurt me. But there is one specific thing you said here that really reached into my spirit and touched me and that was this:

    “Healing comes when we let God not just fill, but also heal, the hole that the guy left there. He not only heals the hole but also make the heart WHOLE through that healing.”

    I’ve been believing a lie that I am less and have less to give to my new husband because of the choices I made in my past. I’ve been believing that this hole in my heart will never heal and that is my punishment for my past decisions. But how beautiful and how refreshing to be reminded of God’s INCREDIBLE grace and mercy on us! We are not just forgiven in Him, we are also HEALED and RESTORED and made into new creations. Thank you, Jordan, for reminding me of this truth and displacing the lies I have been believing from Satan. Sending you so much love and gratitude for the work you do. ❤

    Posted on March 8, 2017 at 8:28 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Girlfriend! How much I hear your heart cry and how much I wish I could hug you and say, “me too, girl.” I believe lies, too. I know they’re lies and still believe them. I’ve felt less than and my own not enoughness, too. Praise God we’re never alone and we don’t have to live in those lies. Thankful for your openness, braveness, and encouragement. Xo

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:52 am
  10. Thank you so much for this, Jordan! I love that instead of putting the focus on the guy or a future husband, the focus is on God. He alone can heal us & make us whole. I needed to be reminded of that as it is so easy for me to think a man will fulfill me. But the reality is fulfillment is found in Christ alone! Thank you for blessing me continually with your posts, God is using you so much in the lives of other women! 💕

    Posted on March 8, 2017 at 5:13 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      You got it!! It really can be so hard to remember and sometimes all we need is a simple yet powerful reminder to fix our focus again! Thanks for reading 🙂

      Posted on April 27, 2017 at 3:51 am
  11. It’s so crazy how everything you just said has lined up with the things I’m feeling!! Your pain has become a testimony and I know is giving me hope and by the looks of it so many other girls as well! Thank you for being an obedient servant!!! I think sometimes that my breakup experience will be a testimony to help other broken hearts in the future! Thank you for the motivation to continue in the healing process!!
    💓💓

    Posted on March 8, 2017 at 6:03 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      No kidding?! I love how well two stories can resound the same heartbeat. Love to hear your heart! Thanks for reading!!! Xox

      Posted on April 27, 2017 at 3:52 am
  12. I have been on and off with a guy for the past year and a half. We have been broken up for the past month, and he recently told me that I am the one for him, but he thinks we need to date other people to gain perspective on our relationship. I’ve been so hurt and questioning why God has put me in this situation. But your posts have helped me so much especially in trying to change my mindset that I need to put God first.

    Posted on March 11, 2017 at 7:48 pm
  13. Jordan, it’s absolutely crazy timing that I would come across this article when I did–God is speaking to me through you right now. I’m really struggling and hoping you could offer some advice.

    Four years ago, my son was born into a relationship with a man who had been abusive to me for three years previously, since I was 16 years old and he was 18. But thankfully, God came into my life just a few months after my son was born and I haven’t been the same since. I broke up with my son’s dad and am now just a few months away from graduating with my Bachelor of Science in Nursing. God has been ever-present in my life since I said yes to Him, and I just want to do whatever His will is for my life.

    Today, my son’s dad (we’ll call him Joe) texted me saying the girl he cheated on me with broke up with him and he’s been really hurt. He’s never been honest about having been in any kind of relationship with her, and now, suddenly, he is. The crazy thing is that I have been praying about this for a while now, that my son’s dad would find God and that Jesus would heal us as a family built on God..that sounds so naive, ridiculous almost, but then I get this text just a few weeks after I start praying and it’s like, God, is this what I think it is?! I’ve had a vision in my mind of us at a coffee shop, me praying for him, and him coming to God…and now we have plans to meet at a coffee shop this week and talk.

    I haven’t heard from Joe in years, except for the court case that we’re in right now (wow, this is really complicated). Quick background: the court case is for custody of my son, although Joe has met the legal requirements for abandonment, because my son’s grandma is forcing Joe to take me to court (because she wants more time with him, even though she has undermined my parenting…so much drama, I’m sorry). During a bible study, I had a vivid experience of God telling me through his Word that He was going to part the Red Sea in my court case (this was actually before I was familiar with the story of Exodus), and since the court case has been on hold for a while I assumed that whatever was preventing him from continuing the case was God’s parting the Red Sea…but now there’s this. Another part of me says, okay, wait, is he just manipulating me so his mom can get custody? I want my son to have his family together, and if God wants to do that then I don’t want to hinder Him, yet I also don’t want to be a fool.

    Jordan, from across a computer screen a thousand miles away, what are your thoughts–is this God’s answer to my prayer, the family he has intended for my son and for me, or just is this just something I need to resist?

    Posted on March 26, 2017 at 3:33 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Girl, wow, what a story you have. It’s beautiful to hear about the redemption God has brought in your life and the way He is opening your eyes to love those who may have hurt you in the past enough to show them Jesus (aka, Joe). I wish I could give a perfect and clear answer here but since I really don’t know Joe’s heart or the specifics of what God is doing in your life, I don’t know if I can accurately answer this question. However, I would advise to tread lightly. That doesn’t mean don’t share Jesus with Him or be a witness of the gospel even if that requires a little risk but be intentional about guarding your heart and protecting your family. If he’s been abusive or manipulative before, this is a situation you want to be careful with, to really pray through, and have some protections in place (for example, maybe have a friend or trusted relative nearby when you meet for coffee, etc.) You can be a witness but keep an arms distance and that may be a good place to start. If you have feelings of uneasiness or don’t feel peace from the Spirit, I wouldn’t advise proceeding forward. Ultimately, seek counsel from those who know both of you, the situation, and pray for clarity while protecting your family above all else. Hoping and praying this helps just a little bit 🙂

      Posted on April 4, 2017 at 3:38 pm
  14. Hey, Jordan! I wish I could’ve read this about two years ago. It would’ve saved me so many hardships. I dated a guy for three and a half years when I found out that he had slept with his best friends girlfriend (who had also been his ex once upon a time.) As you can imagine, I was devastated. I’d been with this guy since I was 14. He was my first love and only relationship so far. Of course though, I went running back. I loved him. I wanted to be with him. I wish I would’ve given myself the time to heal and be with God because it really would’ve saved us time from so many fights and my insecurities. We stayed together. He finally got his life right with God and grew up. He stopped acting like a boy who didn’t know what he wanted to acting like the man God always wanted him to be. We are recently engaged to be married. Part of me feels as if I am the only one out here with that kind of story, mostly because I went back. I wanted to fix what was broken. I felt as if God had told me of the man my now fiancé could one day be and I wanted that for him and us. Not many girls go back like I did and let me tell you, it was tough. This was encouraging to read though. I really enjoyed it. Sometimes I still catch myself wondering what would’ve happened if I hadn’t gone back, but to this day God hasn’t told me to let go. I have prayed and prayed over this man so many times and I really do believe I made the right decision to stay!

    Posted on April 7, 2017 at 12:21 am
  15. Thank you Jordan so much for this article. My ex-fiancé left me, even though he was dedicated to the Lord and we dedicated our relationship to glorify Christ with purity and prayer. Ive never experienced the heart breaking hurt when someone you love leaves you. I felt extremely depressed and incredibly hopeless. But I know Christ is using the hurt to bring me to my knees to Him and to grow me and refine me. ‘For God causes all things to work together for the good of those that love Him’ has been the verse that encourages me on the darkest days. I thank you for being an amazing tool and outreaching to my heart and others who are experiencing hurt. God bless you Jordan ❤️

    Posted on April 13, 2017 at 10:56 pm
  16. Holy Moly, this speaks to me right where I am.

    Thank You for letting God write through you to me.

    Posted on April 14, 2017 at 5:31 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Thanks for reading!

      Posted on April 27, 2017 at 3:52 am
  17. I absolutely love this! I had a similar situation in college and little did I know it was my best friend under that football helmet that I would be walking down the aisle to! & Thank you so much for the encouragement and the mentoring! God placed an online ministry for young girls on my heart in January and it started out great and then came crashing down with obstacle after obstacle! Luckily in February my friend introduced me to your ministry and I am now able to receive so much goodness and guidance through you and the mentoring meetings!! Looking so forward to the release of your new resources/course, its not even funny!!! lol God’s timing is always perfect!

    Posted on April 16, 2017 at 11:22 pm
  18. Thank you for this! I recently found your blog through a shared post on my Facebook page and your words have been so comforting for me. I recently went through a breakup with a man I was convinced I was going to marry for 2 years. He was my childhood best friend, his family was like my family, and we had the best of times together. However, I never really felt that our relationship was centered around God the way it should have been. We both felt God nudging us to take a break and do some soul searching before possibly revisiting the relationship down the road. We both still love each other deeply but I’m worried he is too immature, selfish, and prideful to be a good boyfriend or husband for me right now.

    How do I make sure I’m moving on and taking steps to further my relationship with Christ without losing my best friend? I pray about him constantly, but I feel that he will never be right for me until he has a change of heart and matures. He always seemed emotionally unavailable, showed lack of empathy, and never acknowledged his own mistakes. Does this sound like a guy who is a lost cause? Or someone that has the potential to grow through Christ? We’re both 21 years old.

    Posted on May 30, 2017 at 8:18 am
  19. Definitely needed to hear this today! SPOT ON! Thank you so much for sharing these incredible words! ❤️

    Posted on June 15, 2017 at 3:25 pm
  20. Jordan lee, you are speaking to my heart and I know my stumbling upon your blog Within the past few months of my life was no coincidence. Especially coming across this particular post today. Thank you, a million times, for your beautiful heart and your beautiful words. I know I was meant to read this today.

    Posted on July 27, 2017 at 6:56 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Samantha, I’m SO glad it helped you! XOXO

      Posted on July 28, 2017 at 10:45 am
  21. I like every everything about this article and everything you stand for, so thank you so much for that! But there’s one thing I’m a little iffy on..it sounds like you’re an IU fan…BOILER UP! 🙈😏 but in all seriousness, I’ve really enjoyed getting to know your blog 😊

    Posted on July 27, 2017 at 10:08 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      HAHA! BOO!!

      Thanks for reading, anyway 🙂

      Posted on July 28, 2017 at 10:44 am
  22. Jordan,

    I remembered reading this the first time you’d posted it, and here it is again… ironically because I just recently broke up with someone that I thought I was going to be with for the rest of my life… But to be honest, I don’t know what to do after reading this. The reason I broke up with my ex was because he turned away from God… and I know I am not meant to understand what God is doing, but last year, before I barely knew my ex’s name, I prayed for him constantly (7 months). Last year, I broke up from an engagement, and was letting my heart heal. After my heart was healed, I was trying to be careful and was not wanting to be in a relationship unless it is the one that God intended for me. When my ex and I finally got to know each other, we remained friends while I prayed for him since he claimed that he didn’t believe in God. A few months ago, he accepted Christ as his Savior, and he had a fire going on in his heart. I remembered praying to God very hard what is His will between my ex and I (if we can be in a relationship), and I thought I was sure that God approved because I was seeking guidance especially through both of my grandparents (both have a very strong relationship with God) said that they sensed in their Spirit that my ex was not too far away from God’s Kingdom.

    But months later, he started to question about God that it got to the point that he doesn’t believe in Him anymore…

    I will admit, I am hurting, and trying hard to lean on God about this, but it’s hard. :'( I honestly don’t know what God wants me to do. And I will admit, I feel confused and questioning so much.

    Posted on July 27, 2017 at 11:57 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Oh Bridget, I can only imagine how difficult this is for you. It sounds like it’s been a long road of many ups and downs for you and your heart. I pray you continue to trust God’s leading and that there is a purpose and lesson buried in this pain. Thanks for reading and for sharing your heart. XO

      Posted on July 28, 2017 at 10:43 am
  23. Ah, breakups. I went through my first “real” breakup (as it was my first serious relationship) about three months ago and I can honestly say that although there’s the initial (and sometimes random reoccurrences of) pain and confusion, there’s so much GRACE and BEAUTY in the healing process!

    Seriously, when God brings two people together, it’s beautiful, but when God separates two people, it’s for their good. And I rest secure in the fact that God not only knows the best for us but WANTS the best for us. For anyone interested in reading, I wrote up 7 lessons I learned from a breakup here: https://www.chasethewisdom.com/paradox-beautiful-breakup/

    P.S – thank you Jordan for always being open, vulnerable, and real, and using your story to encourage other girls! Many blessings to you – keep doing what God has given you the ability to do!

    Posted on July 28, 2017 at 10:28 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Hi Yoora! thanks so much for sharing your post and for giving this a read! I’m so grateful for your wisdom and encouraging words! XOX

      Posted on July 28, 2017 at 10:41 am