I have to be real. Today I lost it. Like really lost it.

I became so overwhelmed with work and comparison and all sorts of icky feelings that I found myself violently closing my laptop, storming out of my house to the pool (Arizona in January has its perks), rubbing suntan lotion on my legs, and pathetically sobbing as I said, “Whatever, I quit! I don't know how to do this anymore!”

Okay, I admit, it was a little dramatic. Okay, okay…REALLY dramatic.

But sometimes you just lose your cool and that was one hundred percent me today.

Girls, I know how hard it can be to feel like our life is spinning out of control, our joy is depleted, the weight of the world is hangin' out on our shoulders, and hope seems lost.

I know those icky feelings of comparison and inadequacy that creep into the corners of our hearts when we see all that everyone else seems to have figured out or accomplished.

I know that worry and anxiety that stops us mid-march as we sift through bank accounts, bills, and future goals, just trying to see how it all fits together.

I know that pain that comes when disappointment drops in, when we lose someone or something we love, and when we walk through trials just longing for a triumph that feels so close yet so out of reach.

And more than anything, I'm all too familiar with that famous question, “God, what are you doing? Why are you giving me too much to handle, again?!”

I mean, it's a valid question.

As I stuck my pouty lip out and crossed my arms in an attempt to live in Pity-ville today, the sun beat down on my face and helped me realize that it's not only a valid question but it's a valid question with a very valid answer.

It actually brings to light something we tend to overlook in the middle of our troubles.

Do you wanna know what it is?

Okay, cool.

It's simply this:

God will ALWAYS give us more than WE can handle. But He will never give us more than HE can handle.

Why? Because it helps us see our need for Him…when we arrive at a place of total surrender, when we throw our hands up in the air and say, “I just can't,” He steps in and says, “I can.”

If we have any hope of moving up and out of the trouble, we have to surrender, to let go, to lie down our own ability to fix it and say, “SOS. I can't fix this. I've got nothing. I've exhausted all my resources. This is really bad and broken and outside of my control. Giving this one to you, Pops.”

Because He knows what He's doing.

Does that mean we don't try? Of course not!

Does that mean we don't persist and press on? Not in the slightest!

So, then, what does it mean?

Surrender does not mean to quit. Surrender means to submit.

To submit to the circumstances, the unknown, the present struggle, and place God has us with a deep-seated trust that this pain is not purposeless. His ways are not my ways (Isaiah 55:8) and sometimes submitting to His ways doesn't guarantee that it's all going to be fixed overnight. But ten times out of ten, it will bring a glory so great that the present sufferings aren't even worth dwelling on (Romans 8:18).

Trusting God doesn't mean we won't have trial in this life. In fact, Jesus said that we WILL (not might) have trouble in this life BUT that we are not bound to that trouble because HE has overcome the world (John 16:33).

I didn't overcome the world. Some days I'd like to, though. We didn't overcome the world. Although sometimes we like to try.

Despite our best efforts on our best days and our greatest behavior and movements as mankind…only ONE man walked out of the grave for me and for you (Luke 24).

So even if it seems like a heckuva lot, if you're overwhelmed right now, please understand that it's okay to walk away for a little while. It's okay to break down and cry. But it's not okay to live there. It's not okay to set up camp in Pity-ville.

Because He's offering you a one way ticket out of there. You just have to drop your feeble efforts, angry tears, and sunburned cheeks at the cross. In other words, when we move out of our pity party and into greater glory, all the little pains, frustrations, and trials along the way are part of the story not the end of the story.

Hang in there with me, friend. God is big and mighty enough to handle this but not so big and might that He doesn't understand or step into your pain. Because Jesus felt and walked through your very pain. He carried it on His shoulders and nailed it to a cross.

And He didn't march out of the tomb just for us to stay stuck in the tombs life tries to bury us in, right?

So strap on your Jesus sandals and keep on marchin' with me. Press into Him, cry on His shoulder, lean into His hugs, and roll that stone aside.

And take heart. He has overcome the world (John 16:33).

Jordan Lee

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66 thoughts on “Why Has God Given Me Too Much To Handle (Again)?!

  1. Thanks for this! Needed it after an ugly mommy break down of my own today 😘

    Posted on January 30, 2017 at 10:36 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Girl I hear ya! Thanks for reading, glad to hear it lifted you!

      Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:49 pm
    2. This is crazy because as I was reading this I was like wow this is all so relevant to me right now. And then I saw the verse romans 8:18 and my mind was blown, and I was awestruck. Last week I was sitting with a friend who also loves Jesus and I asked for her wifi password. Guess what it was!? Romans 8:18. What!? The Lord is so cool and the fact that this verse came up again after me not even knowing it, that’s the Lord and He is so good. Thank you Jordan!!

      Posted on February 1, 2017 at 12:42 am
  2. Holy cow this is the best!! Definitely needed to hear this today. Thanks so much!!! You are SUCH an inspiration! 🙂

    Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:03 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      YOU are the best! Thank you so much!

      Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:50 pm
  3. 10 times out of 10 was my favorite line in this heartfelt blog. It is hard to comprehend 10 out of 10 in this world. It is constantly 9 times out of 10, but with Jesus it is always 100%. Thank you my dear! A much needed read for a lot of people in this world.

    Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:30 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Yes! God is the King of one hundo percent 😉

      Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:50 pm
  4. Thank you. Sometimes it’s easier to know that other people are having the same guilt filled thoughts…

    Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:32 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      There is so much power and comfort in the words, “me too!”

      Posted on January 30, 2017 at 11:50 pm
  5. Thank you for this! I’m sure I’ll be coming back to read this because it’s a good reminder that while I may not have it all figure out, as much as I’d love to, God does and that’s all that matters!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 12:05 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Amen girl! Thanks for reading 🙂

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:46 pm
  6. I needed this tonight! I don’t believe it was a coincidence that the moment I felt completely defeated and drained I just so happened to see this blog post. God is always sending little reminders and I’m thankful your blog could be one of them. Thank you!!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 12:09 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      No coincidence at all! We’re in this together, sister!

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:45 pm
  7. So thankful that this article popped up on my newsfeed tonight. God always brings us right what we need to hear and tonight that was through you, so thank you. My little world came crashing down recently, quite literally as I crashed skiing and broke my leg in five places. All of my perfectly designed future plans have been broken along with my leg and it’s definitely been a season of trials and questioning for me, so thank you for this reminder that God is always at work and that he is bigger than any giant we face 💕

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 2:10 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      OH Jaimie! Ouch, girl!! That is quite literal “crashing”, isn’t it? Wow. The Lord will use it for good and great things but I can only imagine how frustrating and painful that must be. Lifting you in prayer – that you heal quickly and find peace through the healing process! Xox

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:45 pm
  8. Needed post!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 5:09 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Thank you for reading!

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:44 pm
  9. Thank youuu! I always have Christian friends telling me, “God is never going to give you more than you can handle!” And I’m like “THIS IS more than I can handle right now!” The amazing truth revealed to me is that HE can handle anything and HE will help me through my overwhelming state, which I cannot handle alone.

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 10:35 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Hey Brianna!

      Totally hear you! The phrase, “God will never give you more than you can handle” is a total lie because He always gives us more than we can handle! Not to punish us but to reveal our need for Him! Crazy and beautiful at once! Love to you, friend. Xx

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:44 pm
  10. Definitely needed this! God is good all the time!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 12:09 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Yes He is!

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:42 pm
  11. Just when I could not comprehend how to handle an issue this popped onto my feed and granted me the clarity I needed. Thank you Jordan for this post, because it pushed me to open up to God and my friends about my situation.

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 4:10 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Yes! Bring all that junk to the light! Love how God used this to speak to you! Keep fighting the good fight 🙂 xo

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:42 pm
  12. Wow! I just just talking on my phone to my dad and telling him that I had to much to much going on and then I got an email from your blog that literally said, “Has God given you too much to handle?” I definitely needed this, thank you!!!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:26 pm
  13. Wow! I just just talking on my phone to my dad and telling him that I had to much to much going on and then I got an email from your blog that literally said, “Has God given you too much to handle?” I definitely needed this, thank you!!!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:27 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Amazing how God works, huh?! So glad you were encouraged!!

      Posted on January 31, 2017 at 6:42 pm
  14. Thank you for this post. I am for sure in the know that God does gives us more than we can handle. My husband of 35 years is divorcing me, I have a boat load of animals, and just took a second job. Starting over at 52 is something one doesn’t plan for. I appreciate the honesty and the hope you have given in this post.

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 7:02 pm
  15. This is amazing, Jordan. Resonated with me deeply! Such needed reminders.

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 7:19 pm
  16. THANK YOU!!! this week every single possible thing is on Thursday & Wednesday night I have no time at all meaning everything has fallen on tonight.i know High School isn’t everything but at the moment it is feeling pretty dang close to “everything”!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 7:39 pm
  17. All i can say is wow!this was not a coincidence. Im so glad i read this!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 8:06 pm
  18. All day I have been pounded by God. He’s been begging me to open my Bible, to reply to the encouraging text, to just talk to Him. And I’ve been ignoring it. Pushing it away. Shoving it away. *Quick Context : I just hit the two week mark of recovering from major hip surgery.*
    Here’s the thing. I’ve been doing so well. As well as can be expected, at least. I’m drowning in schoolwork and today was just a step backwards in the longest two weeks of my life. Finally, God broke through the barrier with this post. Its almost as if He said “Fine, if you won’t listen to me, listen to her.”
    Thank you for making me listen to you.
    All my love,
    Abigail from http://www.soulonfire2016.wordpress.com

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 8:41 pm
  19. This was so perfect because I literally broke down at work today. Thank you so much!!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 10:12 pm
  20. Thank you! Recently was told my Dad could be facing serious illness, I am a daddy’s girl so it is rocking my world and I wanna just hide. I’m strapping my Jesus sandals on and now allowing myself to stay in the tomb. Your so real and I love it!!

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 11:12 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Oh Heather, I’m so sorry to hear this. Lifting you and your family in prayer and trusting God with all the pieces. Keep clinging to His strength when you have none. Xoxo

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:57 am
  21. I was just talking to a friend about this, that I just can’t handle this anymore. I saw the title and I was like “WOW God! So not a coincidence. Thank you for showing me you’re always there for me, even when I feel alone and like you’re not listening to me when I tell you this is too much for me. ” Being in college has sure had its difficult trials and I feel like I just can’t do this anymore, like it’s just too much for me to handle, but I forget that my God is bigger than any obstacle on my path. I’m so thankful I found your page on Facebook one day.

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 11:32 pm
  22. I felt like the definition of overwhelmed tonight and broke down to my roommate just minutes before opening my email and seeing this post. I had literally just said that I didn’t know what I was going to do, that so many things just keep getting thrown at me. I needed this reminder tonight, so thank you. I am so in awe of Gods perfect timing. 💚

    Posted on January 31, 2017 at 11:44 pm
  23. Really needed to hear this! Not only does He take what we cannot handle, but by giving us more than we think we can handle, He is helping us grow into the potential He has given us! Each time we’ve been given too much, our point of exhaustion expands; we can handle more and more each time. We learn and grow from giving everything we can and then submitting everything we can’t to Him! He is always willing to help us along the way!
    -A beyond stressed out college student who has to remind herself of this daily!

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 1:08 am
  24. Thank you for this! Much needed today. 🙂

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 1:41 am
  25. Your articles always come at THE most perfect times! This encouragement is just what I needed as I am going through trials with a broken heart. There have been many times just this week and last that I broke down and wanted to give up. I’m relieved to know I am not alone, and am even more motivated to surrender, let it all go, keep moving forward, and give God all that I can’t handle. Because He cares for me and is working in my life, I lean on Him. I definitely cannot do it all on my own. Thank you for the constant reminders. I seriously love His work through you. 💙

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 2:20 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Hannah! You are NEVER alone. I know it feels like it SO much of the time but He is moving and shaking and using every little stress, problem, and struggle to move us closer to surrender and realign our hearts with His. Part of the Christian walk is growing pains but they are so full of purpose and compassion! Keep doing your best and trusting Him with the rest! Hang in there!

      XO

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:33 am
  26. I have been feeling so burnt out and overwhelmed with everything lately. Just today I was sharing with some close friends that I have been struggling with depression like I’ve never felt before, just totally paralyzing at a time in my life when I really, really can’t afford to be stuck here. And I’ve been feeling like, “God, where are you?” I was checking my email before bed and came across this beautiful encouragement. I know it was no coincidence. Thank you for being so transparent about how you struggle. It’s so easy to feel like we are alone in our suffering – even from God. Thank you for reminding me that He is bigger than the pain but not so big that He can’t meet me here in it and just hold me through it. I am not strong enough to face what I’m dealing with, but He is, and he has overcome it all already. Amen to that. Thank you for this beautiful reminder, Jordan.

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 2:43 am
    1. Jordan Lee

      Angelica! How beautiful the way God used this article to reach you right when you needed it! Isn’t that amazing? Timing like that is NEVER a coincidence – there’s no such thing as coincidence with God’s hand active in our lives. Praying for you and for peace in your heart right now! XOXO

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:31 am
  27. My woman crush goes to you Jordan! Thank you so very much. Not proud to say but I’ve put up a tent in pityville since I got laid off in Dec, parking up now:) Thank you for always been so real xoxo have a wonderful week!

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 10:40 am
  28. Wow! Totally needed this! As I go to take the GRE on Friday I am completely stressed out–actually so much so that I cannot see out of my left eye at the moment! Pray for me to keep the stress levels down. Thank you God for using Jordan through her writing to speak to so many! I shared this with some of my friends and they had a sigh of relief as well!

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 12:00 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Erika! Best of luck on your test! I’m praying all goes well and that you keep pressing into Him and trusting His plan regardless of the results!

      xox

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:30 am
  29. Thank you Jordan (I can call you that right?)
    You inspire me. My name is Faith Fred and I’m a 27year old Nigerian. I’ve been walking and making so many mistakes for almost half of my life but you know…I’m finally beginning to understand what it means to ‘Let,God’. Everyday keeps getting better now and when I read posts such as yours, I am again reminded of God’s faithfulness.
    Thank you so much for allowing HIM use you.
    I love you…xo

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 3:20 pm
  30. Love! Love! Love! Thank you for being transparent and reminding us always that He is on our team. ❤

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 5:17 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Thanks so much! And thanks for reading 🙂

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:56 am
  31. Thanks Jordan life is crazy these days. Finding a decent relationship work and finances. Some days i want to leave it all behind. I recently started conecting with God again and i do feel his presence. I appreciate all your posts they are so uplifting!

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 9:58 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      That’s so great, Chrissie! It’s a journey and walking with God, is a marathon not a sprint! Keep running the race with endurance when your feet get tired 😉

      Love to you new friend!
      xo

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:28 am
  32. Very thankful to God that I received this email today. I’ve been so overwhelmed with school, work and the kiddos and trying to be Wonder Woman never works out. God is and will always be in control of any situation. Praise God for your ministry.

    Posted on February 1, 2017 at 9:58 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Oh girl! I hear ya! I often try to convince myself to fill Wonder Woman’s shoes and it never works out…I guess not even Wonder Woman is as strong and steady as God, huh? Always a good reality check for me when I look at it in that light 😉 Thanks for reading!

      xo

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:29 am
  33. Jordan,
    I just want to start off by saying thank you for letting the Holy Spirit lead you in your writing (it is very evident). It always seems like God has a way of reminding us just how much we do really NEED Him in this life. Through both the good and bad.
    I have had a very stressful past few weeks with school and work. I sometimes as though I am drowning!! Just when I felt like withdrawing from one of my classes (because I didn’t think I could handle the work load) this popped up on my email! So, I decided to read it and sure enough it reminded me (again) that I am not supposed to try and do it alone. God just keeps bringing up sweet reminders for me and this was one of them! Thank you for writing this post and also thank you for being such a great example as to what it looks like to let God lead in your life 🙂

    -Love Jessa

    Posted on February 2, 2017 at 4:26 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Hi Jessa! Life can be so stressful, can’t it? It takes wisdom and patience to decide if we should retreat and remove some obligations from our plate or if we should persevere through them! Looks like God helped use this little article to give you a clearer picture of that and that is so encouraging!

      Thanks for taking a moment to share your heart. I’m cheering you on!

      XO
      J

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:27 am
  34. Never have I needed to hear this more. Thank you.

    Posted on February 2, 2017 at 4:28 pm
  35. *Sometimes Feel

    Posted on February 2, 2017 at 4:29 pm
  36. That was so encouraging, thank you! I was just thinking about how we have so many expectations for our lives, and if things don’t work out the way we want them to, we feel like our lives are a failure. But honestly, we just need to submit to God, give him our expectations, and see what he does with them.

    Posted on February 6, 2017 at 2:42 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Absolutely!! A constant reminder I think we all need! Thanks for reading and God bless!

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:56 am
  37. I really needed this post today. It was so uplifting.

    Posted on February 6, 2017 at 9:18 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      so glad to hear it encouraged you, friend!

      Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:25 am
  38. I thought the saying was “God will never give us more than we can handle” ? I love the way you put it, but I’m just not sure I’m understanding it the way you said it.

    Posted on February 7, 2017 at 1:11 am
  39. ‘ O yes I will keep on marchin with you’ thanks for this post, amazing !
    Lots of love from the Netherlands

    Posted on February 7, 2017 at 4:36 pm
    1. Jordan Lee

      Grateful for your friendship and readership from across the sea, sweet girl! Xoxo

      Posted on March 8, 2017 at 11:56 am
  40. I’m a nursing student and throughout the course of my four years, my priorities have switched around and staying close with God has dropped to the bottom of the list I am sad to say. I am currently in my last semester of nursing school and all the hard work, deadlines, and homework upon homework upon homework has been the biggest trial of all and has worn me down more than I ever could have imagined. I’ve been studying really hard this week for two exams tomorrow and Friday and just called it quits for the night. As I’m laying in bed scrolling through instagram, I saw a post from a nursing friend of mine who tagged you at the bottom. I came across this article and as I’m reading through it, I’m sobbing with so much emotion. These words are so powerful and moving for me, and I NEEDED to hear this. Thank you a million times over.

    Posted on March 29, 2017 at 11:22 pm
  41. Hi Jordan, firstly thanks so much for your blog… You can’t imagine how significant has been your blog for me in the last week. I had a very sad break up with someone I really thought was the one, out of the blue, and God was soooo merciful and loving that that same night one of my church friends (someone I am just starting to know more) sent me the link of your blog and that same night my heart felt comfort and protected, by your reminders of the Word! I started reading every single blog (I am still on it, like now with this one) so it protected me of being sad, it was so fast that I didn’t have time to get my heart broken for long, God started healing since the first moment, like when you take your medicine just when the symptoms start to show up. Yes, I have my moments when I start believing the lies, and this morning I just asked “Why? I prayed a lot and asked you to protect me wrong a broken heart?” and that answer “God will ALWAYS give us more than WE can handle. But He will never give us more than HE can handle.” and that opened my eyes… and even if it hurts I have to accept that I’ve learnt so many things this week, really meaningful and essential things so… Thanks God. Thanks Jordan, you’ve already won my heart and my friendship and I know your name will be a significant one when I tell how this phase of my life helped me to be closer to God. Your sister Alessandra from Scotland!

    Posted on May 20, 2017 at 10:32 am
  42. Hi Jordan, firstly thanks so much for your blog… You can’t imagine how significant has been your blog for me in the last week. I had a very sad break up with someone I really thought was the one, out of the blue, and God was soooo merciful and loving that that same night one of my church friends (someone I am just starting to know more) sent me the link of your blog and that same night my heart felt comfort and protected, by your reminders of the Word! I started reading every single blog (I am still on it, like now with this one) so it protected me of being sad, it was so fast that I didn’t have time to get my heart broken for long, God started healing since the first moment, like when you take your medicine just when the symptoms start to show up. Yes, I have my moments when I start believing the lies, and this morning I just asked “Why? I prayed a lot and asked you to protect me from a broken heart?” and that answer “God will ALWAYS give us more than WE can handle. But He will never give us more than HE can handle.” and that opened my eyes… and even if it hurts I have to accept that I’ve learnt so many things this week, really meaningful and essential things so… Thanks God. Thanks Jordan, you’ve already won my heart and my friendship and I know your name will be a significant one when I tell how this phase of my life helped me to be closer to God. Your sister Alessandra from Scotland!

    Posted on May 20, 2017 at 10:32 am