A few weeks ago, we failed to make reservations at our favorite restaurant for date night. After driving 30 minutes with eager hearts and empty bellies, we nearly sprinted through the doors of the restaurant only to find out there was over an hour wait.


Although we were irritated, we opted to check out the restaurant across the street.

Epic fail. 45 minute wait there, too.


At this point I was really annoyed and Matt (my hubs) was growing hangry-er by the minute.

I looked across the room and saw another couple close to our age enjoying a wonderful meal. I instantly grew jealous.

Why can’t we have what they have right now?

We put our names in and stormed off more dramatically than necessary. How dare they not know we were coming?

Okay not really, but we were frustrated. We didn’t want to wait any longer than we planned on. In fact, we were so hungry that we decided to get dessert first. You know, to keep our blood sugar up. We both ordered large waffle cones and gazed at them lovingly as the little blonde ice cream scooper lady handed them to us.

We literally inhaled them in 60 seconds. I even had to wipe drops of ice cream out of Matt’s beard.

As we left the ice cream parlor, we began talking about what we were going to order at dinner. We talked about steak and mashed potatoes and warm soup. And then it dawned on us that the ice cream had helped but it didn't quite do the trick. We were still hungry.

When our table was finally ready, we sat down to enjoy a delicious four course meal. Our bellies were finally full. I even fell asleep on the way home. That’s when you know it was good.

So what's my point?

Sometimes when we feel sick of waiting on something our hearts long for, such as love or companionship, we turn to ice cream cones. In other words, we begin to settle for whatever’s available rather than waiting on what’s best. It’s as if our tiny beating hearts are so hungry as we wait and wait, as place after place we seek satisfaction from fails, that we settle. Sometimes, it can become far too easy to chase settle for a man that’s not good for us – just because our hearts need that quick little fix, right?

Isn’t it funny though, how we still feel hungry, or lonely, or unsatisfied?

Something is still missing – it’s not quiet enough.

I know because I’ve done it. And maybe you’re thinking,”Big whoop. She’s married.”

Well, yes, but that doesn't just turn off lonely. I've felt lonely time after time both in and out of a relationship. I get antsy when Matt doesn't text back. I question if I'm a burden to him. I wonder if he misses me when we're apart. I spend countless hours shuffling through lies in my head telling me I'm not quite missable or noticeable or love-able enough. Just like you do, girlfriend.

Whether your single or madly in love. Because I'm a firm believer that the condition of loneliness has very little to do with a relationship status. But everything to do with God calling us to be alone with Him.
So if you're feeling lonely and tired of waiting, let me challenge you to look at what you're filling yourself up with. Is it an ice cream cone, or in other words, a romance? OR is it the real meal?

I'd be willing to bet 1739498 ice cream cones with sprinkles bet if you stop eating ice cream cones and realize that waiting isn’t necessarily a bad thing, God will satisfy your hunger with His very best – whatever that may be for your life.

It won’t look like a sister’s life, love, or relationship. And we oughtta remember that that’s okay.

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7 thoughts on “To The Girls Feeling Lonely or Waiting For Love

  1. This is exactly how I feel right now! I am settling for an ice cream cone and I keep returning hoping it will satisfy my hunger, but of course it never does. I am finally realizing I can’t keep going back. Thank you for this!

    Posted on February 25, 2017 at 2:23 pm
  2. My case seem to be a bit worse…It seems I can’t even afford an Icecream cone all through my life. With mu sugar level low and my stomach empty, I do wonder if I’m going to starve alone forever…

    Posted on March 30, 2017 at 3:44 pm
    1. Your not alone we go through the thought of am I “forever alone” and a “hopeless romantic” God knows what your going through and sometimes our time in the desert feels and seems like a really, really I mea really long time. But that could be because he’s molding you preparing your heart so when you meet your forever husband your ready so many times were waiting for that sign we look at every guy walking in the door to see if he’s “worthy” or the “next contestant”. When we already have that He’s already paid the price, He’s always the fist one at your doorstep, He’s anxious to wait for you notice Him. We have to learn to be patient in the season of waiting and while you wait and he prepares you fall in love with the one who adores you and calls you worthy. The one who seeks you, protects you, and longs to be walk with you. Our creator we have everything we could ever possibly need in Him once we have Him filling our hearts you wont look for affirmation anywhere else. He has perfect timing. He gives us our hearts desire, trust me he knows you want a husband to be loved and pursued and he will give you that when the time is right he’s not waiving a piece of steak to amuse himself no he’s a god father and nurturing tender loving father he only has out very best nothing but the best in store. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. -Psalm 37:4” “Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord! -Psalm 27:14” Use this time to find enjoy what he’s freely giving you and let yourself be captivated by Him alone without distractions. I pray Sharon that you will aloe God to touch your heart and make you see that this season of waiting is a gift not a burden you are not alone sister don’t let the enemy steal your JOY society tells us to do have accomplished certain things by certain ages when that’s not true you don’t have to married and with children by age 23 we don’t go based of what the world tells us no so rejoice in this time and find God in ways you’ve never encountered Him before let him be your priority once that happens everything else will fall in its place. -Blessing

      Posted on May 19, 2017 at 10:39 am
  3. Needed this so much ❤️ Thanks for sharing your gift

    Posted on April 11, 2017 at 5:14 pm
  4. This blog has been so inspiring to me lately, I was going through a hard time having my heart broken by a guy I thought was the one. And through reading through your posts to “not let your emotions make you walk back into the life of a man who walked out of yours” really helps me to not let my spiraling emotions to get the best of me, but to trust that God’s hand is in this and He made us split for a reason that I may not understand but ultimately be for God’s glory.

    Posted on April 29, 2017 at 12:57 pm
  5. Wow! This is so encouraging! Waiting isn’t easy but it’s always worth it in the end! I’m trying to remind myself of God’s promises and what he has in store for me in the future! <3

    Posted on June 21, 2017 at 10:04 am
  6. That was fantastic and so relatable for me! Especially because I love ice cream! haha I am absolutely loving reading your posts! I can’t help but stop myself from reading every single one! Thank you for being real about life! It gives me hope knowing someone is in the same boat I am! xoxo

    Posted on July 8, 2017 at 12:43 pm